The notion that this place is a friendly one is false. I was told before I came to Newfoundland that I would meet loads of people and that the locals here were warm hearted and welcoming. That has to be the biggest misconception I have ever had about anything.
I moved here from Chicago. I lived there for five years. Prior to that I grew up in Halifax and have lived in multiple other places in my 30 odd years including Toronto, BC, NYC, Cincinnati to name a few. Out of all those experiences, this place is undoubtedly the most difficult place to make friends, which has never been a problem for me. I am well educated, funny, approachable and not ugly. My breath is not bad, I dress well yet locals do not interact with me at any level in social situations despite my subtle witty efforts.
For a while this was a mystery to me but I think I get it now. There is an assumption that all outsiders are either here for only a short period or are simply strange for wanting to be here. I am not strange and I am going to be here for a while unless I am driven away by simple solitude.
As this province continues to flourish, it is going to continue to attract individuals from outside that actually like being here. Yes, I said it, I actually like being here. I do not know why that is so outlandish when the people here claim to love their city and province so much, why would it be strange for someone not from here to find value in being here?!? The people of this island have to start opening their minds to making friends with people they haven’t known for generations.
Last Saturday I went out. I was with two other friends, both from away. We spoke to a total of 6 strangers, all of whom were also from away. The common thread of those conversations was how cold the locals were to people they didn’t know and how difficult it was to meet new people in this city.
When I first moved to Chicago I thought at some point I might get shot and that the Americans were ignorant, unfriendly people. That was the complete opposite of the experience I enjoyed while there. I met a ton of friends, some of whom I will be close with until I die. I came here expecting that I would be overwhelmed by the friendly locals and yet again I am shocked with the opposite reality. This time, I am not as pleased with the outcome. St. John’s I implore you, snap out of it.
Rant by People here suck